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Aug 31, 2017

One of the topics that I return to again and again is the topic of positive masculinity and what it means to be a good man. 

Problem is… a lot of guys tend to define “being a good man” as simply not being one of the bad. And that doesn’t really work. Being a better man means being willing to step up when needed. And as we've seen all too often in cases of harassment or assault - whether it's cat-calling, an aggressive stranger on the subway or a creeper at a convention - most people don't do anything. Part of positive masculinity is about standing up for others, especially if they can't... and doing so the right way. 

To quote Preacher: you’ve got to be a good man, because there’s way too many of the bad.

Show Highlights:

  • Why saying "I'm sorry for others" and #notallmen isn't actually helpful
  • Why getting physical with a creeper isn't the right idea
  • The importance of breaking silence
  • How speaking up can defuse a bad situation
  • Why you should be someone's backup

...and so much more.

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What’s Really Wrong With Nice Guys – Entitlement, Nerds and Neanderthals

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